Psychology

Why We Have Fewer Friends as We Grow up

September 15, 2017
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Did you think in your childhood that when you grow up, you will lose many of your friends? Probably no. Nobody thinks in this way. But it’s natural. As we grow up, we have fewer friends. The reason? Our environment, thoughts and lifestyle everything changes and those who share common traits only stay together. There is also another reason and that is a wrong selection of friends.

 

Everyone makes friendship with wrong friends while younger

Your first day at school always lets you make friends. You went to school and sat next to a student and he/she becomes your friend within a few minutes. You start having lunch together, play and even hang out after school. This is how actually life goes on. While you are together, you share a lot of things. You know each other’s situation, moments of joy and sorrow. And gradually these things make a strong bonding between you.  But when you feel that you are no longer that close friends? When you start experiencing the common traits are gone.

After a long time when you meet with your old friend, you feel excited and start talking about old days, memories. But soon you realize that there is nothing left to talk about. Because the bond you made is long gone.

On the other hand, some friends remain because they share the common things deep down. Think of your childhood friend with whom you still have the same relationship. Because of the situation, you may not talk every day, but you know that she/he is there for you and vice versa. The reason is, you share the same values. Same thoughts and same values are the basis of any friendship. When two or more people feel alike in the most important things in life, the friendship becomes everlasting.

With your soul-friend, you can share everything. You can cry or laugh together, share victory or defeat, stay by the side of each other in any situation. On the contrary, you will find friends who are double-minded. They will make everything perfect in front of you, but gradually you will know their real color. They are not your friends rather a bunch of people who try to get facilities from you.

 

How to build friendship that will be everlasting

In adulthood, we need friends the most. We need people to rely on. But how to build a friendship that will be for our whole life? There are a lot of ways.

Something in common

The first thing, there must be something in common and, above all, stability. The common interest can be the same career, a common pastime or the same lifestyle. The saying Hobbies and paths make friends. Friendship is about love and appreciation. Then, over time, friendship can develop in depth and in extension through mutual treatment, knowledge and affection. And along with these things, friendship needs stability.

Communication

It is not that you have to talk to your friends all the time. But you must make time for them. Communication is one of the best keys of friendship. Do not hesitate to go to your friends when you face a problem, or you have something good to share.  Having a good communication prevents misunderstandings and possible problems.

Be Generous

Generosity facilitates giving that is essential in friendship. The real friends are generous. They give qualities, time, energies and knowledge.  Treat your friends with respect and affection. Selfishness is radically opposed to friendship. An especially difficult act of generosity is forgiveness.

Be loyal

There is nothing more valuable than a true friend. To be loyal means to be a person of speech, to respond with fidelity to the commitments that friendship brings with it. Loyal friends never betray each other or talk bad in the back. They are true friends who defend the interest and good name of their friends.

Lifelong friends can be an extraordinary treasure. To maintain a good friendship you will have to take time to develop and nurture it. Remember that to have good friends, you must become the good person at first.

 

Personal Development

How to Improve Punctuality: 10 Tips

September 7, 2017
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The punctuality is one of the greatest qualities of a person and it is also sometimes the biggest challenge for us. But there is nothing to worry about. If you haven’t been able to be punctual yet, you can start from today. By being punctual, you will feel much less stressed, as you will not have to worry about being on time or apologizing to those affected. Here are 10 tips on how to improve punctuality.

 

  1. Be Aware of Change

Although the majority of unpunctual people know it, not everyone understands that it is a problem that affects them and their environment. You need to cope with the necessary change since the first few days can become a stressful challenge. No one likes to wait and understand that it can be considered an offense towards others can help us to be more responsible.

 

  1. Finish Homework on Time

Often, people who are late actually get stuck in moving from one activity to another, according to Julie Morgenstern, author of Time Management from the Inside OutPeople who are aware of time, on the other hand, outline their tasks in advance and understand how much time they should devote to each project. Ask the question, “How long will this take?” Set the specific time to finish one work and then start another and you’ll find it easier to sort things out.

 

  1. Observe and Know

Learn your routines such as, how long does it take you to have breakfast or take a shower? Knowing how long our daily actions take can help us to organize our day and prevent us from becoming “optimistic of time” believing that in a limited period we can do more things than we truly are capable.

 

  1. Stick Notes

Stick notes in your house that remind you of the time. For example, if you have to leave your house at 9, and then find out about this yourself “it’s 8:20 and you should take a shower”. When you keep track of time, things become easier for you. This should help you to follow the process as well as being a good way to remember what you have to do.

 

  1. Change Strategy

Try to be ready 15 minutes before the scheduled time. Quiet, it is very likely that you do not do it the first time – or the second – but little by little you can go pick up new habits that will help you to be more punctual. If it is the first time you go to a place, try to leave in advance to know the way and avoid delays.

 

  1. Get Organized

The disorganization is directly related to unpunctuality. Keep things in your house so that they fit into your routine, so things will be simpler and suddenly you will find that you have time where you did not have it before. Create a schedule. Currently, there are numerous mobile apps and tools to keep up with our appointments and tasks. Create different checklists where you can set the goals you want to accomplish in the day. Be realistic, even if you want to do many things, select what you are really going to be able to accomplish.

 

  1. Prioritize the Important

Look for the tasks that really deserve your attention. If you are not clear how to classify your tasks and objectives you can guide you through a chart that relates your important and urgent tasks in this way. Choose what you are going to wear the night before and set it aside. If you need to bring something with you, then place it near your wallet or keys. If you’re going to an unfamiliar place, make sure you have a map. Whether you are going by car or by bus, be sure to plan how you will arrive and how you will return. Always things don’t work according to our plan; still we need to plan to make things smoother. This will obviously improve your punctuality.

 

  1. Uses Alarms and Warnings

Synchronize an alarm five or ten minutes before your task ends. Be sure to move on to the next one at the agreed time. Little by little you will be more productive and you will lose less time in accomplishing the objectives.

 

  1. Do not be Optimistic

Things usually take longer than you expect. If you have a dinner at 6:30, do not think you can work until 6:00 because you need bathing, changing, and driving to your destination or taking the bus. So don’t be optimistic rather learn time management to become punctual.

 

People who are late to their plans do not realize that they are creating a bad impression on the rest. Being late can be considered a lack of interest and even respect. Only if you are aware of its importance you can definitely change this aspect of your life.

Personal Development

Why People With Morning Routines Are More Productive

September 1, 2017
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It’s a regular scenario in our life. The alarm rings in the morning for a long time, still, we can’t open eyes. Sometimes, we turn the alarm off and sleep again. But how long we can keep this attitude? It’s not a good habit that we can keep continuing. A lot of people also live differently. They are calm and have morning routines. The reason? people with morning routines are more productive along with being healthier.

 
What is a Morning Productivity Routine?
The things you do in the morning make the morning productivity routine. The most successful people in the world, such as Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg, renowned artists and athletes say that the morning is the most important part of the day and that maintaining a routine in the morning has been the key to their success. In the morning routine, you will find techniques of visualization, affirmations, gratitude, meditation and some exercise. People, who do these activities in their morning turn out to be happier, with less stress and can have more productivity.

 

 

Morning Routine Can Make You Happier
“Early to bed, early to rise, makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise.” Certainly, you have been hearing this from an early age. But it’s quite difficult for you to rise early in the morning. Our world is full of technology where it’s difficult to sleep early at night. So, how will you wake up in the early morning? You need to practice. If you have morning routines, you will become happier, healthier and more productive.

 

We have a lot of works in a day. If you get up early, you get a lot of time to complete your work. It apparently makes you stress-free. Wake up early in the morning, do some exercises and then have a full breakfast. You can see the difference within a few days.

 

 

When you are stress-free, you become more productive
Isn’t it obvious? When you are an early riser and you feel less stressed, you become more productive. You can even make time to have coffee with your friends. You can even get more time to spend with your family. You will have more time for yourself. If you exercise in the morning, you will become healthier. And a healthy body also gives you a healthy mind. When the mind is free, clear and stress-free, you can show your best level of productivity.

 
Starting Your Morning Routine Can Be Hard at First
• If you live alone, you must take the help of an alarm clock, so it can be difficult for you at first. Still, you need to make the habit. If you live have anyone in your house, you can take help from the person.
• At first, you won’t feel that your purpose is served. It needs time. Make morning routines and keep following.

 

How to Get Up Early and Become a Productive Person
The first thing is that you have to figure out how you want to do that. Here are some tips that can show you the possible ways of waking up early and become more productive.
Hydrate, Eat, Breathe
Our body enters in the fasting mode during sleep. So at first after waking up, you need to break that mode. The best way is to drink a full glass of water. Drinking a glass of water in the morning can also help you prevent various diseases and increases metabolism. Then you can do some free hand exercises and at last, eat a healthy breakfast.
Make a List
Make a list of the things you need to accomplish throughout the day. And while working, check off what you’ve accomplished. You need to make it a personal challenge and you will realize that you have a disciplined life that helps you become productive.
Maintain a time
Wake at the same time every day, and to go to bed around the same time, too. This process helps your body develop a natural sleep pattern that will help you become productive.

Psychology

How to Overcome Emotional Dependency

August 29, 2017
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When you depend on others for your happiness, that doesn’t actually help you rather it makes you suffer. So it is better to overcome emotional dependency. Dependency is like a drug that you become addicted which is not good for you. This type of situation is bad for both men and women, but generally, women suffer more. Emotional dependency creates lack of self-esteem. So, it is important to take these steps into account if you want to escape from this dangerous situation.

  1. Know that There is a Problem: One of the most complicated things to do when you are dependent emotionally is to make a deep reflection about what is happening. It is easier to look the other way or blame other people than look inside and recognize that there is a problem. Honestly acknowledging problems is the first step to overcome emotional dependency.

 

  1. Learn to Say “NO”: It’s for your well-being. When you are assertive that means you respect the other party and you respect yourself. Saying to learn no is essential to h=gain emotional autonomy.

 

  1. Establish Relationships with the Right People: Avoid relationship with toxic people by any means. Surround yourself with people who will even help you to gain self-esteem. Look at people who respect and value you. Bringing positive people in life will help you overcome emotional dependency.

 

  1. Do not be Afraid of Uncertainty: Many times, the fear of being alone makes us return to that toxic relationship that causes us so much pain and suffering. Most of us think that the being alone in the future is an uncertain thing. And it is then when we prefer to stay there, in the place we already know. Therefore, it is necessary to leave the comfort zone and adopt a positive attitude towards change.

 

  1. Strengthen Your Self Esteem:  The main factor of any emotional dependence is a low self-esteem.  There are many options to be able to strengthen it, from going to a professional psychology to doing bibliotherapy. The fact is that you have to strengthen your self-esteem to forget emotional dependency. There is something new and instructive out there. Avoid seeking approval and be aware of your negative thoughts.

 

  1. Avoid Expectations of Other People: In most cases, emotionally dependent people have unrealistic and overly intense expectations about what to expect from others. This tends to provoke an idealization towards the other party, and it is not a wise decision to fill the void that we can feel with ourselves with the need to have someone at our side at all costs. Expectations can be disastrous. Realizing this can help overcome emotional dependence.

 

  1. Travel Alone: Traveling is one of the best ways to make you free form one thought. And if you travel alone, you will a lot of time to think about yourself. When traveling, you only have to solve problems on your own, meet other people, be sociable, without help from partners, family or friends. It definitely helps you to be independent.

So you need to clearly know the key signs of emotional dependency and then take steps to get rid of it. Build your own world of self-respect and self-dependence.

Personal Development

The More Curious You Are, The More Productive You Are!

August 11, 2017
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Curiosity is productivity. It is difficult to find people without curiosity. In our childhood, we were more or less curious. But when we become adults, we lose some of it. Still, at some point, we feel curious about our lives and surroundings. Curiosity leads us to want to know more. Scientists have been studying this matter for many years and now they say that curiosity gives birth to productivity. The more curious you are, the more productive you are.

The Science of Curiosity:

A lot of scientists are analyzing how curiosity occurs in a person. For finding better results, scientists have studied hundreds of people using magnetic resonance imaging. The result shows that each time a person is curious about something, two different brain areas become activated, one focused on motivation and reward, and another focused on memory. According to scientists, curiosity is the mechanism that the brain uses to highlight the information that is really worth remembering. The study also implies that curiosity is related to health. When we desire to discover new things, our memory works more accurately. So being curious reduces the risk of neurological and cardiovascular diseases. In 1996 a study was published about Psychology and Aging, where after analyzing more than one thousand adults during 5 years it was seen that those qualified as “more curious” lived more and with better mental health.

Why Curiosity Gives Birth to Productivity?

Curious people enjoy greater mental health because they “train” their brain constantly. This makes them smarter than the average because they have the better analytical capacity and easier problem-solving ability. At the same time, curious people are never satisfied with how much they know. They always seek to learn new things that they can apply to their lives and become more productive in many ways. Experience gathering is the main passion of curious people. They never stop.

Curiosity helps people in many ways like; it clears our thoughts and gives us a better perspective of life. Curious people don’t accept things the way they are. They search for truths. They look for the why and the how, and by understanding the functioning they are able to make things more efficient. Curious people also view problems from different perspectives and seek alternative solutions to achieve their goals efficiently. While looking in many ways, curious people automatically become creative. And who doesn’t know that creativity leads us to productivity?

How to be curious?

There are a lot of ways. Here are 5 for you.

  1. Read vastly and be Impartial: One of the easy ways to become curious is to be impartial and read widely. You need to have an open mind towards everything that is new in your life. And when you read a lot of things, you gather more experience which leads you to curiosity. Remember, you have to be willing to discover something new, to invest time to learn something that interests you and start looking for new opportunities.
  2. Question things: Be like a kid who is interested to know everything. Don’t take things for granted, rather question. We all know about Albert Einstein, but do you know how he became the pioneer? Einstein didn’t become famous for his extraordinary ability to study what his teachers taught him. It was actually his ambition to question things and to have his own ideas which led him to develop his theory of special relativity.
  3. Be Enthusiastic: When you are enthusiastic, you become interested in a particular subject. To become an enthusiast, you need to mix fun with your works. You can also set some challenges and try to overcome those with the intervention of your friends or co-workers.
  4.  Avoid boredom: Being bored, you lose your curiosity. So when the target is to become curious, you must avoid boredom. To get rid of boredom, you need to do things that interest you. Learn new trends, read different books or learn a new language.
  5.  Explore the World: Increase your curiosity by exploring the world. You can start exploring your neighborhood. Discovering things or places is really fun. Try from today and start getting results.

Curiosity makes you productive and also keeps you healthy, so the first thing you need to do is being curious.