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How to ‘Let Go’; The Key to Happiness

October 26, 2019
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This is the story of my life! I tried to hold on to so many things that I had no way to be happy. Letting go was the most difficult thing for me to do. I didn’t let go of my possession of things, didn’t let of people I desired as the list goes on. But what did the mind set of not letting go bring me? Disaster, more depression, unhappiness and lack of self-confidence. To be happy, we don’t need things or people, because happiness comes from within. Until we don’t learn how to let go of things we can’t control, happiness is far away.

What does letting go implies?

You might think, why would you even let go when the possession is yours? Here lies the secret. There is nothing in this world you can possess rather than yourself. You are the only one who is truly yours. Attachment makes it tough to let go of anything you love or desire. People, material things, views etc. create attachment and make it tough to let go because we become afraid of losing them. We think, if we lose, we will be unhappy even we might not survive. Just take a look at your life back, so many things you had to let go such as, material things and people you liked, did you die??

Most of the things or people in our lives bring us emotional gratification or sensual pleasure. And none of these means happiness. Happiness is not related to others. It’s entirely your decision to be happy whether you have any possession or not.

The illusion of possession:

Often we think that possessions will bring us joy. But, have you ever wondered how a simple possession brings you anxiety many times? Here is an example; suppose, you have a person you like. You have been happy together so far, but suddenly, that person doesn’t want to stay in the relationship anymore. But you are not ready to let of the relation or the possession. The person is not happy with the commitment, and you two start suffering together instead of enjoying it. What do you think is a more suitable thing to do in this situation? To hold on to the dead string or to let go?

Letting go is the key here. You can’t be happy while carrying a burden on your shoulder. But you can let go and be free. Letting go is the key to freedom. Just think this, everything is impermanent. You can’t hold on to everything forever.

Why is letting go hard?

It is hard because of our emotional attachments. We think the thing we possess brings joy. We mostly romanticize about the stuff we have. We love someone and think about them. The affection grows and it becomes hard to let go of them. We are afraid that if we let go, we will lose our happiness along with the person or material. But, we need to understand that worldly possessions can’t bring happiness because happiness only derives from within ourselves. If we can run our mind in the right direction, we will be happy without even having a single thing.

How letting go helps?

Why would you let go when you can have the possession for longer? There are many benefits to letting go.

  1. Freedom: everyone wishes to be free and from where does freedom come? Freedom comes from letting go of possessions. Without attachment, your mind and soul becomes free. You become a free person with a lot of joy. When something doesn’t serve us anymore, we must let go.
  2. Personal growth: Letting go teaches us to grow gradually. When we hold on to something, be it a person or a material, we can’t move on. We dwell in past situations and emotions which doesn’t let us flourish. Letting go of possessions helps you to pursue better and healthier things in life.

5 Ways to learn to let go

  1. Make a decision: The first thing is to decide. You must realize the value of your choice. You will see people who smoke for years find it tough to quit, but once they make their mind, they quit forever. Just like that, you also have to decide to let go. You can write your decision on paper. Make a journal where you can write your thoughts. If needed, write every day the same thing and one day you will see that you feel much better than the time you started.
  2. Stop blaming others: If you are unhappy, then you are one responsible for it. Don’t blame other people in your life for your state. Stop being the victim. No one can make you unhappy if you don’t support it. You must understand happiness is a state of your mind where others don’t have any access.
  3. Learn from the past: The past is always the experience. Learn from past mistakes and move on. If you hold on to the past and don’t allow yourself to live in the present, you will never be able to gain anything. Letting is much easier when you know that you can’t bring the past back. You have to live in the moment. The present moment is the only time that can prepare you for everything.
  4. Have faith in yourself: You have to have faith in yourself and in the universe. Letting go won’t harm you instead will bring the best out of you and bring the best for you. Sometimes, things are physically gone, but we keep craving, which keeps us from moving on. You must accept the absence. Your faith in yourself will help you the most to make a better life. You can even lean on a friend who understands and support you.
  5. Meditate: It can be one of the first things to do. You need to calm your mind to direct your emotions in the right way. And the best thing is, it only takes 5 minutes a day. You don’t have to meditate 30 minutes or 1 hour everyday, give it a go for 5 minutes. But, do it regularly. Sit in a quiet place and let go of your thoughts. Don’t judge anything, just let your thoughts pass. Remember, what is gone is gone and you are still here alive and well. You don’t need anything to rely on to live. You are solely responsible for your life and you are alone competent to live peacefully. Meditation will make you realize the importance of your life and time.

Finally, I want to say that live for yourself and only then you will be able to help others live. If you are devastated of thinking that you lost something, you will be the most crippled person in the world. Letting go is always the best way to bring better outcomes. It is hard, but worth it. You can understand the value of your life and emotions only after you let go of the past, let of the people that don’t serve you anymore, let go of the memory that makes you restless, let go the things that are of no use.

Peaceful living!

Personal Development

Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life: The Correct Ways to Do it

March 26, 2019

That’s why they say, “perception is projection.” What you think, you become. Your thoughts control your daily life. If you think negative, you will see mostly problems in your life, on the contrary, your positive thoughts make your life fulfilled. But changing thoughts is no easy task, you need to have an open mindset along with the ability to coping with various situations. You are the sole owner of your life and you only can make it better or worse. So, change your thoughts to change your life. For your help, here are some ways to start with.

1. Meditate: The most important work is preparing yourself for the better. Meditation is the best way to prepare yourself. Start by taking a deep breath. Be conscious of your breaths. We are only living because we breathe. So, when you can control your breathing habit, you become prepared for the rest of your work. Along with taking a deep breath, create positive affirmations. Affirmations are the root of all things that happen in our life. You can create positive affirmations so as negative. Negative affirmations ruin your life. So, concentrate on making positive affirmations. Change your thoughts to get positive feedback. For instance, when you start a project and think always that I might not be successful, that or this will happen, you create negative affirmations. So, you should think that I will be successful or I intend to do my best here. Project on those positive thoughts you create and stick to it. So continue deep breathing and create positive affirmations.

2. Ask Why: The thing is that, don’t ask why to your situations or to other people’s work rather ask yourself. For example, “why I become happy when I buy a new cloth?” You definitely know a new outfit makes you happy, but you never asked yourself the reason behind happiness. Now you answer the question according to your positive affirmation. “ I become happy because a new outfit or cloth makes me confident, makes me look better.” Happiness lies in you, it doesn’t depend on others. Once you become clear about your daily life, you become more conscious about how you live, you start feeling happy and the change begins.

3. Appreciate What You Already Have :

If you realize that you have enough, you are truly rich.” ~ Lao Tzu.

If you appreciate whatever you have in your life, you are one step closer to your goal. Everyone wants to be happy and successful. That doesn’t mean people can’t be happy until they are successful according to their terms. You must aspire in life, think big, but at the same time, you must appreciate the little things you have, the little success you get. This trait of appreciation sets the path of your goal.

4. Live in Present: Past is gone and think that there is no future. You are alive right now, this present moment is everything and you need to live, cherish this moment. Your present makes the future. So, if you enjoy your present, you will see, eventually, you have a better life. And past is gone so there is no meaning crying for it. Past experiences prepare you for your better present. This moment is only true and grab it. Enjoy your life, enjoy little happiness and you will see how life blesses you.

The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.” BUDDHA

5. Declutter And Slow Down: The world is such a place where everyone is running constantly. People are always in a rush to do something, to go somewhere. I am not asking you to step down from the race, I am asking you to slow down a bit. Don’t rush things. Take time and think wisely, act better. Our mind and brain are cluttered from every day’s chaos. When you take deep breaths, you need to focus on one point. One at a time. Don’t think about different things altogether. It makes your brain slow. So declutter all possible unnecessary things from your head and mind and focus on what’s important.

6. Express Gratitude: We can live and change our lives until we die. It is a great miracle that we are in this world. So it is obvious that we would feel grateful. Express your gratitude that you wake up every day and living well. Be thankful to the universe, to god and spread the joy among the people around you. Help people as much as you can. This feeling will make you even happier.

At last, you will be able to change your thoughts and life, but you need to focus on what you are doing. You need to be aware of your life. You will have to have an open mind and the will to see things from different perspectives. Only then, you will get your desired result. Take the first step consciously and you will see that the rest of the steps are coming you automatically.

Enjoy Living…

Personal Development

How to Improve Punctuality: 10 Tips

September 7, 2017

The punctuality is one of the greatest qualities of a person and it is also sometimes the biggest challenge for us. But there is nothing to worry about. If you haven’t been able to be punctual yet, you can start from today. By being punctual, you will feel much less stressed, as you will not have to worry about being on time or apologizing to those affected. Here are 10 tips on how to improve punctuality.

 

  1. Be Aware of Change

Although the majority of unpunctual people know it, not everyone understands that it is a problem that affects them and their environment. You need to cope with the necessary change since the first few days can become a stressful challenge. No one likes to wait and understand that it can be considered an offense towards others can help us to be more responsible.

 

  1. Finish Homework on Time

Often, people who are late actually get stuck in moving from one activity to another, according to Julie Morgenstern, author of Time Management from the Inside OutPeople who are aware of time, on the other hand, outline their tasks in advance and understand how much time they should devote to each project. Ask the question, “How long will this take?” Set the specific time to finish one work and then start another and you’ll find it easier to sort things out.

 

  1. Observe and Know

Learn your routines such as, how long does it take you to have breakfast or take a shower? Knowing how long our daily actions take can help us to organize our day and prevent us from becoming “optimistic of time” believing that in a limited period we can do more things than we truly are capable.

 

  1. Stick Notes

Stick notes in your house that remind you of the time. For example, if you have to leave your house at 9, and then find out about this yourself “it’s 8:20 and you should take a shower”. When you keep track of time, things become easier for you. This should help you to follow the process as well as being a good way to remember what you have to do.

 

  1. Change Strategy

Try to be ready 15 minutes before the scheduled time. Quiet, it is very likely that you do not do it the first time – or the second – but little by little you can go pick up new habits that will help you to be more punctual. If it is the first time you go to a place, try to leave in advance to know the way and avoid delays.

 

  1. Get Organized

The disorganization is directly related to unpunctuality. Keep things in your house so that they fit into your routine, so things will be simpler and suddenly you will find that you have time where you did not have it before. Create a schedule. Currently, there are numerous mobile apps and tools to keep up with our appointments and tasks. Create different checklists where you can set the goals you want to accomplish in the day. Be realistic, even if you want to do many things, select what you are really going to be able to accomplish.

 

  1. Prioritize the Important

Look for the tasks that really deserve your attention. If you are not clear how to classify your tasks and objectives you can guide you through a chart that relates your important and urgent tasks in this way. Choose what you are going to wear the night before and set it aside. If you need to bring something with you, then place it near your wallet or keys. If you’re going to an unfamiliar place, make sure you have a map. Whether you are going by car or by bus, be sure to plan how you will arrive and how you will return. Always things don’t work according to our plan; still we need to plan to make things smoother. This will obviously improve your punctuality.

 

  1. Uses Alarms and Warnings

Synchronize an alarm five or ten minutes before your task ends. Be sure to move on to the next one at the agreed time. Little by little you will be more productive and you will lose less time in accomplishing the objectives.

 

  1. Do not be Optimistic

Things usually take longer than you expect. If you have a dinner at 6:30, do not think you can work until 6:00 because you need bathing, changing, and driving to your destination or taking the bus. So don’t be optimistic rather learn time management to become punctual.

 

People who are late to their plans do not realize that they are creating a bad impression on the rest. Being late can be considered a lack of interest and even respect. Only if you are aware of its importance you can definitely change this aspect of your life.

Personal Development

Why People With Morning Routines Are More Productive

September 1, 2017

It’s a regular scenario in our life. The alarm rings in the morning for a long time, still, we can’t open eyes. Sometimes, we turn the alarm off and sleep again. But how long we can keep this attitude? It’s not a good habit that we can keep continuing. A lot of people also live differently. They are calm and have morning routines. The reason? people with morning routines are more productive along with being healthier.

 
What is a Morning Productivity Routine?
The things you do in the morning make the morning productivity routine. The most successful people in the world, such as Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg, renowned artists and athletes say that the morning is the most important part of the day and that maintaining a routine in the morning has been the key to their success. In the morning routine, you will find techniques of visualization, affirmations, gratitude, meditation and some exercise. People, who do these activities in their morning turn out to be happier, with less stress and can have more productivity.

 

 

Morning Routine Can Make You Happier
“Early to bed, early to rise, makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise.” Certainly, you have been hearing this from an early age. But it’s quite difficult for you to rise early in the morning. Our world is full of technology where it’s difficult to sleep early at night. So, how will you wake up in the early morning? You need to practice. If you have morning routines, you will become happier, healthier and more productive.

 

We have a lot of works in a day. If you get up early, you get a lot of time to complete your work. It apparently makes you stress-free. Wake up early in the morning, do some exercises and then have a full breakfast. You can see the difference within a few days.

 

 

When you are stress-free, you become more productive
Isn’t it obvious? When you are an early riser and you feel less stressed, you become more productive. You can even make time to have coffee with your friends. You can even get more time to spend with your family. You will have more time for yourself. If you exercise in the morning, you will become healthier. And a healthy body also gives you a healthy mind. When the mind is free, clear and stress-free, you can show your best level of productivity.

 
Starting Your Morning Routine Can Be Hard at First
• If you live alone, you must take the help of an alarm clock, so it can be difficult for you at first. Still, you need to make the habit. If you live have anyone in your house, you can take help from the person.
• At first, you won’t feel that your purpose is served. It needs time. Make morning routines and keep following.

 

How to Get Up Early and Become a Productive Person
The first thing is that you have to figure out how you want to do that. Here are some tips that can show you the possible ways of waking up early and become more productive.
Hydrate, Eat, Breathe
Our body enters in the fasting mode during sleep. So at first after waking up, you need to break that mode. The best way is to drink a full glass of water. Drinking a glass of water in the morning can also help you prevent various diseases and increases metabolism. Then you can do some free hand exercises and at last, eat a healthy breakfast.
Make a List
Make a list of the things you need to accomplish throughout the day. And while working, check off what you’ve accomplished. You need to make it a personal challenge and you will realize that you have a disciplined life that helps you become productive.
Maintain a time
Wake at the same time every day, and to go to bed around the same time, too. This process helps your body develop a natural sleep pattern that will help you become productive.

Personal Development

The More Curious You Are, The More Productive You Are!

August 11, 2017

Curiosity is productivity. It is difficult to find people without curiosity. In our childhood, we were more or less curious. But when we become adults, we lose some of it. Still, at some point, we feel curious about our lives and surroundings. Curiosity leads us to want to know more. Scientists have been studying this matter for many years and now they say that curiosity gives birth to productivity. The more curious you are, the more productive you are.

The Science of Curiosity:

A lot of scientists are analyzing how curiosity occurs in a person. For finding better results, scientists have studied hundreds of people using magnetic resonance imaging. The result shows that each time a person is curious about something, two different brain areas become activated, one focused on motivation and reward, and another focused on memory. According to scientists, curiosity is the mechanism that the brain uses to highlight the information that is really worth remembering. The study also implies that curiosity is related to health. When we desire to discover new things, our memory works more accurately. So being curious reduces the risk of neurological and cardiovascular diseases. In 1996 a study was published about Psychology and Aging, where after analyzing more than one thousand adults during 5 years it was seen that those qualified as “more curious” lived more and with better mental health.

Why Curiosity Gives Birth to Productivity?

Curious people enjoy greater mental health because they “train” their brain constantly. This makes them smarter than the average because they have the better analytical capacity and easier problem-solving ability. At the same time, curious people are never satisfied with how much they know. They always seek to learn new things that they can apply to their lives and become more productive in many ways. Experience gathering is the main passion of curious people. They never stop.

Curiosity helps people in many ways like; it clears our thoughts and gives us a better perspective of life. Curious people don’t accept things the way they are. They search for truths. They look for the why and the how, and by understanding the functioning they are able to make things more efficient. Curious people also view problems from different perspectives and seek alternative solutions to achieve their goals efficiently. While looking in many ways, curious people automatically become creative. And who doesn’t know that creativity leads us to productivity?

How to be curious?

There are a lot of ways. Here are 5 for you.

  1. Read vastly and be Impartial: One of the easy ways to become curious is to be impartial and read widely. You need to have an open mind towards everything that is new in your life. And when you read a lot of things, you gather more experience which leads you to curiosity. Remember, you have to be willing to discover something new, to invest time to learn something that interests you and start looking for new opportunities.
  2. Question things: Be like a kid who is interested to know everything. Don’t take things for granted, rather question. We all know about Albert Einstein, but do you know how he became the pioneer? Einstein didn’t become famous for his extraordinary ability to study what his teachers taught him. It was actually his ambition to question things and to have his own ideas which led him to develop his theory of special relativity.
  3. Be Enthusiastic: When you are enthusiastic, you become interested in a particular subject. To become an enthusiast, you need to mix fun with your works. You can also set some challenges and try to overcome those with the intervention of your friends or co-workers.
  4.  Avoid boredom: Being bored, you lose your curiosity. So when the target is to become curious, you must avoid boredom. To get rid of boredom, you need to do things that interest you. Learn new trends, read different books or learn a new language.
  5.  Explore the World: Increase your curiosity by exploring the world. You can start exploring your neighborhood. Discovering things or places is really fun. Try from today and start getting results.

Curiosity makes you productive and also keeps you healthy, so the first thing you need to do is being curious.