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How to Overcome Negative Thoughts; 9 Ways

January 13, 2020
How to overcome negative thoughts

“We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves.” — Buddha

Thinking negative thoughts? No big deal. You can transform negative thoughts into positive ones. The only thing you need is the power of your mind.

I have been reading, understanding and writing about negative thought patterns for a long time. Yet. I fall prey of it sometimes. I am well aware of all the solutions a human being can use to change the mind. But many times I find myself in the middle of the ocean of negative thoughts.

How it all comes? Negative thoughts start with just a small feeling or some words of others sometimes trigger the mind. You need to know negative thoughts doesn’t harm others, it harms you. It happens when you fail at something and start thinking what is the point of doing all these? Or in some cases, you might be overloaded with depression and start thinking various kinds of negative thoughts. The point is not to control your mind. You just need a little push to divert your mind from negative thoughts to positive thoughts. This is the best way to overcome negative thoughts.

Here are the ways you can practice to overcome negative thoughts.

  1. Replace negative with positive

You can’t stop your thoughts easily. Our mind is always thinking about almost every possible things we see or experience. Thoughts come and go like the south breeze. You can’t stop your thoughts that easily but you can change your thinking patterns. The moment you realize that your mind is being fulfilled by negative thoughts, think of good things, the things you like or people you adore, situation you want to experience or good moments you have lived in. This will change the pattern of your mind and make you see the other perspectives of life. It is easier said than done to divert your mind in a jiffy. It takes time but it will be easier once you start practicing little by little. So to overcome negative thoughts, replace those with positive ones and see the changes in near future.

2. Live in the moment

This is the only moment that is true. The past is gone and the future is yet to come. So to focus on both the past and the future is just a waste of time. You neither can change the past nor live in the future. The only thing you can do is to live in the present moment. To live mindfully in the moment is one way out of negative thoughts. If you are feeling down, negative thoughts are making your mind rubbish then think of right now. Are you in any kind of trouble right now? Are you in danger right now? Are negative thoughts you are having right now is worthy of your valuable time? If these answers are “NO”, move on and live.

3. Don’t think of what people say

We give priority to people’s thoughts. We are afraid of what people will say or think. Remember, what people say is not necessary at all. You know who you are and what suits you best. Give priority to yourself. Negative thoughts come mostly when we think of others. It is their job to think not yours and you have nothing to do with their thoughts. Stop thinking about what others say and start thinking how you can overcome all obstacles and go ahead. If negative thoughts still come, put it aside for a few minutes and think of your achievements. You will get over the unnecessary thoughts soon.

4. Question your thoughts

When negative thoughts come, ask yourself; are these thoughts worthy of my time? You will get the answer “no”. When the answer is no, you have no time to waste. Our mind works like a drama director. The episode goes on and on. You start thinking one negative thought and after just a few moments you will find yourself in the ocean of negative thoughts. It grows with your attention. To overcome negative thoughts, you will have to stop giving attention to those thoughts.

5. Avoid negative or toxic people

They are all around us. You will find them just by giving it a thought. Think of people who make you feel down, suck your energy, make fun of you always or criticize you no matter what you do. Get rid of those people and you will find your life much better than before. Toxic people emit negative energy that affects everyone around. It is your duty to protect yourself by avoiding those people. Pay attention to your life. Surround yourself with people who make you happy and vice versa.

6. Stop giving attention to negative thoughts

The moment you become conscious that you are thinking negative things, just stop it there. It might be difficult at first but continuous practice will make it easier. Stop feeding thoughts that are harmful for your mind and your life. Negative thoughts are contagious. One thought will come and then it will spread its wings. You will have to be conscious to overcome negative thoughts. Think of your good memories or just turn the negative thought upside down.

7. Meditate

Focus on your breathing while you are trying to get rid of negative thoughts. Do you know Gautama Buddha became enlightened by focusing on his breath? I am not asking you to be enlightened. You will just have to focus on your breath to calm your mind down. When you focus on your breathing, your mind becomes calm and stops thinking. It is tough for everyone not to think anything at all. But with practice, you can do that. The mind needs rest too. So when you take deep, long breaths, your mind becomes inactive.

8. Help others

Helping others in their needs make you happy. A happy mind can’t think of negative thoughts. Helping others brings joy and fulfillment. When you help someone from the bottom of your heart, you become an empath and an empath is always calm and quiet. While your mind is quiet, it generally starts thinking good thoughts. Negative ones can’t stand a chance there. So to overcome negative thoughts, help people who are indeed in need.

9. Be grateful for what you have

Being grateful is always the best way to shape your life. Think of what you have in life, what makes you happy, what makes you fulfilled, what brings joy in every sphere of your life. You will definitely see that there are a lot of things that make you real happy and joyful. When you are in a peaceful moment, your mind doesn’t go to negative ways. Be grateful that you have food, shelter, family and friends. Be grateful for who you are. Every little thing that makes your life amazing, be grateful for them. And you will find that you don’t have negative thoughts anymore.

We live in a place that is so chaotic to live in. This is a place where we survive more than living. It is in your hands how you want to see your life. If you practice above things and try to keep a steady mind, you will gradually start thinking in a more positive way. To overcome negative thoughts, you will have to focus on positive thoughts and positive traits you possess. You can’t make it overnight but it will change for good.

Have a great life!

Personal Development Spirituality

10 Common Habits of Unhappy People and the Ways to Overcome

November 17, 2019
habits of unhappy people

Happiness is a vast idea that we get confused about it. On the other hand, unhappiness is the idea that catches us from anywhere and we certainly know that it came. But, why so? Because unhappiness has greater power over us when we don’t know how to be happy in every circumstance. Habits of unhappy people also affect people around them. A study called Terman study from Stanford University says that “being around unhappy people is linked to poorer health and a shorter life span.” What is happiness? There is no specific definition of happiness as long as you find yourself happy in little moments. Happiness surrounds you while you find joy in whatever you do. Unhappiness is also related to your mental situation, along with the circumstances you deal with. Just like happy people, unhappy people also have some common habits. Take a look.

10 Common habits of unhappy people
It is a real tough job to stay being surrounded by unhappy people as it can drag you down too. Just as some habits determine happiness, unhappiness is also determined by some habits that are common in every unhappy people. You might think, other people or circumstances make you unhappy, but sometimes, habits can be the root cause of unhappiness. Figure out if you have any of the following habits.

1. They are always negative: Unhappy people have the habit of finding negative things in every situation. They never think of positive outcomes. Negativity is the foundation of their minds and beliefs. They think negative; they talk negatively; they behave negatively. So, it is very tough for them to be happy. Look at yourself, how do you react? Are you always thinking of negative thoughts or outcomes? If you are really negative, happiness is very far from you. So, how to break it? The easiest solution is being conscious when you are thinking negative thoughts. Stop right there and write down those thoughts. And finally, reverse those thoughts. Start seeing the positive sides of your thoughts.
2. They always complain: Not happy with anything at all. Unhappy people are always complaining about almost everything. They have no idea that complaining won’t bring anything. It’s natural to complain once or twice if you like but always not the best thing to do. We complain to relieve our stress. Unhappy people complain to drag others into their stress. They don’t know how to let go. Unhappy ones like to stretch depressing matters longer and bring all around them into the issue to make the situation even worse. They analyze negative situations in every possible way and make those their prime concern. How to get rid of it? Simply focus on the positive side and let go of the bad things once it is gone.
3. Victim mentality: One of the worst habits of unhappy people is being the victim. They think that everyone around them is trying to harm them. Every misfortune is brought to them by someone else. They never think of their actions. It’s their habit to be the victim and finding peace in that. What is to do in such a situation? If you think you are a victim, pay attention to your thoughts and actions. If you do wrong, you suffer. People around you don’t always bring bad things to you; you are the maker of your fortune. Find out the thoughts that trigger your victim mentality and get rid of those. Look around, and you will find out people who are suffering more than you.
4. They wait for the future: Without making the present beautiful, you can never have a beautiful future. Unhappy people are unaware of the importance of the present. They are always thinking of the future, which is yet to come or might not come. What is the future? If you work right in the present moment, you are making your future amazing. Unhappy people seem to label the present moment as bad and wait for good times to come. Not only that, unhappy people also think of negative thoughts that can happen in the future. How things can go wrong at work, how people can react in a bad way and so on. Overcoming this habit is not tough. You just have to take deep breaths and think of your situation right now. Decide what is best for you and what you can do to make your situation better. Thinking of the future is great when you make your present moment right. It doesn’t have to be perfect, it needs to be right.
5. Jealousy: Unhappy people are jealous of others as they can’t see anyone happy. The happiness of others makes them feel deprived and depressed. They think negative, act negative and expect others to stay in a bad situation. When you are a negative person, you can’t think in the right way. You become sad about watching others happy. Unhappy people become envious of others’ achievement. They can’t cope with the celebration. They think others don’t deserve the things they are getting. If you are jealous of others, then think that this habit only hurts you. It doesn’t really make a difference if you are envious of others who are happy. You think of it, you suffer. So to make things easier for you, you have to learn to appreciate others for their works.
6. Having no control: Unhappy people believe that they have no control over their luck or situation. But it is not true. You get what you think of, you see what you project. If you have misfortunes, you brought that. It’s not all about controlling, it’s about making things run in the right way. Some situations go beyond our control because of our doings. Concentrate on the aspects where you have your full control, think of how you can make any situation better. Learn from the people who inspire you. Focus on what you are capable of doing. Rather than controlling others’ lives, make yours amazing.
7. Holding grudges: It’s true that sometimes people can make you unhappy. But that doesn’t mean you have to hold on to those moments or feelings. Unhappy people can’t let go of such situations where they feel sad. The only way to overcome all problems is by letting go. Unhappy people hold grudges against others while making different scenarios in their head which lead to their tormenting. To get rid of grudges, you have to stop thinking and stay positive. Forgive others and go on your way.
8. Ignoring real problems: Unhappy people love to ignore real problems. When a big problem comes in front of them, they tend to ignore it. They like to think that the problem doesn’t exist and that way, they feel less burdened. But they have no clue that this problem can have solutions. While ignoring the real problems, they create different smaller problems that lead them to doom. So how to stop ignoring the real ones? We all make mistakes and it’s natural. Don’t overlook your mistakes, have the courage to accept it and reverse it. Face your problems, try to find the solution that can cure it from the root and you become free. This way, you will become more empowered and strong to face anything in life.
9. Overreacting: Every action has a reaction but when it comes to unhappy people, they tend to overreact in almost every problem. Every smaller negative thing can impact their lives in a bigger way. They pay attention to minor problems more and make it big. When you face something like this, ask yourself if it is worth your time? If it has anything to do with your happiness in the long run?
In most cases, you will find the answer is no. so, stop overreacting and start acting. Take a few deep breaths and let go.
10. Overcomplicating life: The biggest mistake of all time. Unhappy people complicate things unknowingly. They start judging every negative aspects in their life and entangle their life. Life is not very complicated unless you make it. Unhappy people become complicated enough to bring the negative in every situation. How to solve it? Assess the situation instead of judging. Find out your faults and correct those. You are solely responsible for your life and you have to take the responsibility instead of blaming others. Try to nurture your relationships that give you peace. Get rid of unnecessary stress and make a life that suits you the best. Make use of your time in productive ways.
So, what is the easiest? Being unhappy or happy? Being unhappy takes a lot of things but to be happy you just need to keep an open mind. Unhappy people suffer for their own habits, they fall in the traps that they make. It doesn’t even cost a single penny to be happy but to be unhappy, it costs a lot of your time, energy and a big portion of your life. It’s time to make the difference. Be happy, be positive.

Spirituality

How to Handle Criticism Like a Pro; 5 Effective Ways

November 7, 2019
How to handle criticism

We all get criticisms now and then and it makes us unhappy. So, how to handle criticism? To handle it, you need to understand the perspectives of other people who are criticizing you.
Criticism can be constructive or stupid. How you are taking it is your point of view. Take me for an example. When I started my career as a freelance writer back in 2015 after finishing my post-graduation from the best university in the country, people around me started saying that I was making the biggest mistake in my life. I never reacted, neither stepped back. I kept doing what I liked doing. I loved writing from and didn’t give up. I indeed had to face a lot of difficulties, but I never was disappointed. I did my best every time I got a chance. When people were trying to make me understand how I was finishing my career in the worst possible way, I just told them not to push me because I loved my job. I heard the criticism and made it my weapon.
Anyone can disapprove of you, but when you know that you are doing the right thing, you don’t take it personally.
Here are 5 effective ways for you to handle criticism like a pro:
1. Keep an open mind:

How well we can handle criticism depends on our relationship with the person who is criticizing. Suppose, you have a best friend and he/she is criticizing you for something, you will be able to take it as you know best friends are always there to advise wisely. But if the criticism is coming from a colleague who you don’t have a close relationship with, you might mind it. So, the thing is, if you keep an open mind, you can listen to every criticism you get from anyone and assess it for your betterment. I am not asking you to abide by the criticism; it is just that you can see the good or bad side of criticism from your perspective. Sometimes, people who are close to us can’t criticize us thinking that we might get hurt. So, an open mind will let you hear the criticism of other people who are not close enough and make the best out of it.
2. Don’t take everything personally:
Not everything is to take personally because it can make us depressed. So, what to do? Listen to what others are saying without attacking or reacting. You will know which one is constructive and which one is unnecessary. If anything makes sense to you, assess that and you will get a room for you to reform yourself. Life always teaches us lessons. It is in our hands how we take the lessons. If there is a scope to improve, we should. When someone criticizes you doesn’t mean they are right and you are wrong. It’s just that you both have a different point of view and there is always scope to learn and grow.
3. Assume good intentions:

Not always people have bad intentions. People who criticize in front of you have good intentions most of the time. Those who say things behind your back are to ignore. So again, without reacting, just listen to the people who are telling it in front of you and then decide if it is helping you. People who are talking behind your back, just ignore them as you are already ahead of them.
4. Focus on learning:

The one thing you can always do. Life is a constant learning field. Every past experience makes you even more mature to take steps in the present moment. Just like that, every criticizing words make you prepare for your better journey of life. People might criticize you to make you look small, but your duty is to grab the lesson from their words. So, instead of thinking why this person is criticizing me, think what I can learn from it. If you focus on positive outcomes, life becomes easier and happier.
5. Smile:

When someone is criticizing you, don’t attack them rather smile and let it go. Letting is the best thing you can do instead of blaming others. People can criticize from their point of view, but you will have to take it lightly. Take the emotions out of it and handle it like a pro.
While listening to criticism from others, it is tough to control our emotions. If the criticism is constructive, productive, then it makes much more sense to us and we can take it easily. But if it makes us feel sad or depressed, it becomes hard to handle and we start attacking people who are talking. So, the best way is to control our emotions and stay away from negative thoughts. To handle criticism like a pro think like a pro.

Spirituality

15 Personality Traits That All Successful People Have

May 24, 2017

Yes, all successful people have some common personality traits. Though the definition of success varies, the common traits are undeniable. If you think you are going to be successful, you need to have some features that are related to your body and mind. Here is a list of 15 personality traits that all successful people share.

  1. Showing gratitude: It is such an attitude that everybody needs. But successful people have this trait within them from the very beginning. If you don’t know how to be grateful, don’t even think of success. Successful people have the right to be arrogant, yet they are the most sophisticated people.
  1. They can forgive: We have learned this in school and home. But how many times do you forgive them who do wrong? Successful people know how to forgive people and give them chances to do better.
  1. They live for the moment: It’s not that successful people don’t think of future, it’s just that the present is important to them. If they do well in the present situation, future will automatically be better.
  1. They have Passion for Improvement: There is no limit to improvement. The harder you try, the better you get. Successful people try to improve themselves in a continuous process. They always strive for better.
  1. Take responsibility for mistakes: A lot of people try to blame others for their mistakes, but successful people never do that. They take full responsibility for whatever they do.
  1. Learn from past mistakes: Past situations never make successful people hopeless. They better learn from past mistakes. They gather experience that helps them to do better in the future.
  1. Aren’t afraid of failure: Successful people are never afraid of failure. They take full responsibility even when they fail. They know failure is obvious, but they always have a backup plan. Failure is nothing to be ashamed of.
  1. They share information: Sharing won’t make any successful person unsuccessful; rather it will strengthen their base. Unlike unsuccessful people, successful people love to share information with people they trust.
  1. They are positive: Negative thoughts are the most dangerous hindrance of success. Successful people think positively. They can bring out positive side from any negative situation.
  1. They celebrate victories: They don’t wait for any big victory. Successful people love to share their happiness and glory with the people around them. So, only a little victory can be a big thing to them.
  1. Accept change: The world is changing, so why shouldn’t successful people adopt it? They really love change and accept it as their challenge.
  1. Consider other’s point of view: Successful people aren’t successful because they do whatever they want or decide. They consider the perspective of people around them. They know how to show respect to someone’s opinion.
  1. Know what they want: Successful people really know what they desire. They don’t have vague visions; they have a clear point of views. They know how they are going to be successful and work accordingly.
  1. They are always learning: The world is a big school to successful people. They learn from wherever they go, whatever they see. They love to read books and visit places that can enrich their knowledge.
  1. Strive for authenticity: It’s impossible to achieve any kind of success without being trustworthy. People who are successful know how to be authentic. For them, being authentic implies that they are clear in expressing their opinions and they are truthful and transparent. They don’t create any moment that can give birth of confusion.

Being successful also means you are happy in your life. If you have enough money, still you are unhappy in your mind, how can you describe yourself as a successful person? Above 15 personality traits of successful people will help you learn about the way of success, and it will also make you a better person.

Spirituality

15 Natural Hair Growth/ Development Treatments (DIY)

December 3, 2016
Natural hair growth treatment

15 Natural Hair Growth/ Development Treatments

Natural hair growth medications are the best approaches to avoid diminishing, shedding, and breakage; to guarantee ideal hair development, and to anticipate potential male pattern baldness. Yet, aren’t medicines and items that advance quick development lavish? All things considered, yes, however you don’t need to purchase them! Indeed, there are a considerable measure of magnificent development medicines you can make in your own particular kitchen utilizing essential oils, herbs, and even fruits and veggies! What’s more, the hair development medications I’m going to tell are most likely worth looking at.

 

#1 Castor Oil

Castor oil is one of the best hair oils which ensures strong and thick hair. You can even use castor oil to make your eyebrow and eyelashes thick. This oil is greasy, so mix another essential oil with castor oil. Apply warm castor oil mix at least twice a week. Leave it for whole night and wash off with shampoo in the next morning. You will see the difference after a few weeks.

 

#2 Curry Leaves & Coconut Tonic

Put some coconut oil into a pan and add fresh curry leaves. Start boiling and when you will see the black residue has started forming, know that the mixture is ready. Keep it aside to rest and apply in your hair when it is cold. Apply the mixture twice a week for the best result. This is obviously one of the best treatments of natural DIY hair growth.

 

#3 Onion Juice And Honey

This sounds weird, but it’s truly useful if your hair is diminishing or in case you’re losing it. Onions are exceptionally sound for your hair. You simply require a little onion and squeeze it. Include honey once it’s completely squeezed. You can either apply the blend everywhere on your hair or just to the places that look slender. Leave it overnight, and clean it the following morning.

 

#4 Egg Yolks and Olive Oil Mask

Egg contains proteins, vitamins and super-supporting unsaturated fats; egg yolks won’t just make your hair gentler, shinier and healthier however help you to develop it long. Also, keeping in mind the end goal to get every advantage egg yolks give, basically blend 2 egg yolks with 2 tbsp of olive oil, weaken the blend by including some water and after that gradually and altogether rub this mixture into your scalp. Give your hair and scalp 15 to 20 minutes to retain everything afterward wash off.

#5 Vinegar Rinse

In spite of the fact that it may appear to be cruel to regard your hair with something as acidic as vinegar, the fact is that the hair truly welcomes it because of its somewhat acidic nature. Our hair’s pH fluctuates from acid 3.5 to unbiased 5.5 which implies that our soluble hair care items tend to rattle it. Vinegar, in the other hand, helps hair restore its ideal pH esteem making every strand shinier, more grounded and less inclined to breakage and it uproots the developments that truly choke out the scalp and moderate down ordinary hair development. Blend 1 portion of vinegar and 2 portions of water and utilize this mixture while washing hair.

 

#6 Rosemary Hair Growth Treatments

This effective herb won’t just make your hair great however fortify hair development also! It takes care of the issue of diminishing hair fall and strengthens the scalp which definitely implies that, if you choose to attempt this at home, you don’t have anything to lose! Blend 2 teaspoons of dry rosemary leaves and 300mls of water then rub this blend into your hair and scalp beginning from the closures.

 

#7 Almond Oil

In case you’re attempting to rejuvenate your hair, almond oil is a basic yet successful ingredient to do it. Almond oil is useful in light of the fact that it has such a variety of sound unsaturated fats, so it makes your hair delicate while reinforcing it. You should simply take around a tablespoon of oil– pretty much relying upon the length and thickness of your hair – and rub it into your scalp and hair. Let it sit for 15 minutes and then wash off with cold water.

 

#8 Banana Mask

Bananas are rich in vitamins A, E, C and potassium which are helpful stimulating hair growth. On the other hand, bananas are rich in calories, so don’t eat a lot of bananas rather use it for hair. The only harmless way is to make a banana mask and give the hair a nice banana treatment is mashing the banana and apply it in your scalp. Wrap your head with a hot towel for half an hour and then wash off with mild shampoo. This mask will make your hair silky and give the necessary nutrients.

#9 Coconut Oil And Avocado

Coconut oil and avocado together is an incredible hair development treatment for a few reasons. It adds radiance to your hair if it’s dry, also disposes dandruff, and it keeps your hair safe from the sun. Just hit the coconut oil for around 10 seconds, then rub one tablespoon of it into your hair from the roots to the tips. After that, rub the avocado simply into the tips of your hair. Leave this blend on for 10 to 15, and then utilize cool water to wash it.

 

#10 Henna And Egg Shampoo

Eggs are powerful in developing hair, on account of all the protein. This treatment is generally simple. You require henna powder, an egg, some lemon juice, and some water. Start by blending the henna, egg, and the water together until you’ve framed glue, then let it remain for 60 minutes. After that, include the lemon juice and mix it in until the blend becomes smooth. Put the mixture over your scalp and your hair, from root to tips. Keep it for around two hours, or until the blend is totally dry. When you wash it, simply utilize warm water and tenderly wash to take the blend out of your hair.

 

#11 Oatmeal Hair Mask

Oatmeal hair mask is the least complex hair treatment you can make, in spite of the fact that you’ll require some milk and almond oil. Get a large portion of some oats – or more, if your hair is long and/or thick, 1-2 tablespoons of almond oil, and the same quantity of milk. Combine everything and apply the mixture from root to tip. Keep it on for 15-20 minutes and then wash with warm water.

 

#12 Egg And Yogurt Mask

Egg is an awesome ingredient in a great deal of hair development medicines! The use of egg is very simple too. Take only one egg, some plain yogurt, and some mayonnaise. Start by beating your egg until it looks frothing, and then include the yogurt and the mayo, mixing until the cover looks smooth. Rub it into your scalp and your hair, until every last bit is secured. You can use plastic or a shower cap on your head since you need to leave the mixture up for 60 minutes. When you wash use cold water and an smooth shampoo.

#13 Potato Juice

Potatoes are rich in potassium, iron and calcium which give you stronger and longer hair. You just need to apply fresh potato juice in your hair. Apply the juice and leave it for at least 15 minutes. Then wash off with normal water. If you have thin hair, this treatment will help you to get thicker hair. You can also make a pack using eggs, potato juice and honey. Mix all the ingredients together and apply it in your dry hair. Leave the pack for about 2 hours and then wash off with mild shampoo.

 

#14 Amla / Indian Gooseberry

Amla contains antioxidants and vitamin C which help to get thick and strong hair. Mix amla powder with lime juice and apply it in your hair. When it dries, wash off with warm water. You can also boil amla in coconut oil. Let the mixture cool down and then apply as a hair tonic. This natural hair improvement mixture will also make your hair shiny. You can apply this tonic thrice a week for better result.

 

#15 Garlic And Chamomile Tea Mask

Garlic And Chamomile Tea Mask works together as a useful pack to get beautiful hair. Mix a tablespoon of garlic juice with three tablespoons of chamomile tea and also add aloe vera gel, honey, egg yolk and water with it. Apply the pack in your dry hair and leave it for at least 1 hour to get better result. Use the pack once a week.

 

Hair is the most important visible feature so we need to keep it healthy and shiny. Above hair development treatments will absolutely make your hair perfect if you do it on a regular basis.